The True (G)entleman

but it sure does make it a lot easier.

You don’t get to decide whether or not you’re good enough for somebody so stop worrying about it. The only thing that will for sure make you not good enough is obsessing about how you’re not good enough.

Just like saying “I’m single.”

formal and 80% male.

by pausing and playing a youtube video because I couldn’t find the list alone anywhere.

25. If there’s a problem, talk it out.

24. If you can’t talk it out, fuck, then try again.

My tenth follower was: http://nightmarebc.tumblr.com/

I know, I have so many it’s hard to believe.

“The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others rather than his own; and who appears well in any company; a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.”

- John Walter Wayland 1899

somebody made about how people have changed and people they used to be friends with never talk to them anymore or are just dicks to them. There are probably a lot of people who feel that way about me. It’s unfortunate but it’s a necessary change that a lot of people need to go through. I don’t know how well you knew me if at all, but I was very quiet and rarely did anything outside of school except for choir. Somewhere between then and now I became somewhat of a dick. Like..a lot. At one point I was calling one of my best friends a bitch. Jokingly, but I didn’t even really think about if she was taking it seriously until another friend told me that she complained to him about it all the time. Anyways, lots of stuff like that. I realized it when some of my closer friends started to drift away from me the summer before I started college and during this last semester. I think the best way to sum it up was something I saw on tumblr that said. “I hate who I became to escape what I hated being.” Anyways I realized that I needed to change so I decided I should start trying to be a better person overall. So I joined a fraternity, which sounds like it would be counter productive, but it’s not a stereotypical fraternity. Their…creed? yeah sure that works, is a piece called the true gentleman which is about being a better person (I’ll post it right after this). It’s really a great piece and it’s pretty much the whole reason I got involved with the fraternity at all. 

The point is that some people need to go through a phase of being a dick to get some confidence and - if they pay attention - realize why being a dick all the time is bad. Personally I believe that becoming something I hate was an essential step to becoming who I want to be. You have to know what you don’t want to be before you can find out what you do want to be. The same thing is true about women/men, if it wasn’t none of us would have relationships that didn’t work out. If you meet any young people who are kinda dicks, let em know. Just tell em their being an asshole or something. They probably won’t care because they’re assholes, but hopefully if enough people tell em they’ll figure it out, look at who they are, and make changes to become who they want to be.

ticklemytallywhacker:

this is a poptart:

and this is a warm, flaky toaster strudel:

BITCH, I LOVE POPTARTS.

I’LL MAKE IT 501 BITCH!